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I thought about my relationship with this particular woman. I don't know her well, but over the last week I had gotten to know her better because we were involved in the same volunteer work. In the past I had been put off at times by what I saw as an ?in your face? style. She was often the center of activity and I had that feeling that I used to have in high school watching the ?popular? kids. Perhaps I was feeling envious.
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I realized I was seeing authenticity in action, someone who is very true to who she is and who doesn't alter her behavior to suit others. In her case, she is extroverted and outgoing and draws people to her like a magnet.
Wouldn't we all like to be that authentic? Why are we afraid to let ourselves be seen like that? Here's what I observed about her.
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? She isn't afraid or hesitant to address people she doesn't know.
? She is friendly and drawn to others.
? She is curious about people and asks questions.
? She looks people in the eye when she speaks to them.
? She doesn't hold back; when she needs to say something, she says it.
? She is present ? you get the sense that she is right there with you, not preoccupied or distracted.
? She goes out of her way to help others.
? If she has an inkling that she had gone too far, she checks in with others to verify that, and makes amends if necessary.
You might have other characteristics that you would put on this list. To be authentic, you don't have to be exactly like this person Cheap NFL Jerseys Shop , i.e. you don't have to turn yourself into an extrovert or be the life of the party. But you do need to tune in, be true to yourself, and be willing to express yourself.
How do you do that? People in recovery often come from families with addictions, and as such we have modified our behaviors in particular ways. We are used to reining ourselves in, scanning the environment to see how we're coming across, ready to tone ourselves down when necessary. We don't like people to be angry with us Cheap NFL Jerseys Wholesale , or to not like us. We'd like to please everyone, if it were humanly possible.
The advice that a psychiatrist gave me, in a recovery group for ACAs, was to err on the side of being uncomfortable. In other words, my sense of what I could say and what I couldn't was so flawed that he encouraged me just to speak out?and even with that I probably wouldn't be as outspoken as the ?normal? person!
If we just start by stepping out more, taking a chance by saying something Cheap NFL Jerseys Free Shipping , tolerating the discomfort we might feel by being more visible, then over time we can learn to hone our new skills.
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Below Cheap NFL Jerseys China , we'll discuss the main types of repair work that are done on automatic transmissions. I'll describe how leaks are fixed, how worn components are replaced, and when overhauling the assembly is your only option. I'll also provide a few tips for maintaining your car's tranny in order to extend its operating life.
Fixing Leaks
Leaks are common and can usually be fix easily. You might notice a few drops of reddish fluid on the ground directly below the assembly. This fluid is important to the upkeep and performance of your transmission. If the level runs low and your tranny does not receive a sufficient amount, it might result in expensive damage.
When you see leaks on the ground, immediately check the fluid level. Replenish it if needed and take your vehicle to a technician. Leaks usually form at the seals and gaskets. With the exception of your front seal, all of them can be addressed without taking your tranny out of your car. If the front seal is worn and has developed a leak Cheap NFL Jerseys , resealing it requires lifting the assembly out. That can become costly.
Replacing Worn Components
As noted earlier, any of the individual parts within the transmission can wear down and need to be replaced. The cost of this type of repair work can vary. Some parts, like a few of the electrical components, may be accessible once the oil pan has been removed. Others require the technician to lift the tranny out in order to service them.